Power

 Toward Every Goal

 

by

DR. JACK DEMPSEY

 

 

© Copyright 2015 by Jack Dempsey.   All Rights Reserved.

Contact:   Dr. Jack Dempsey
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Dedicated Gratefully

to the international friends and peers,

 teachers, students and audiences

who keep teaching me

 

 

CONTENTS

 

Begin Here:  Speaking Power Leads to Every Goal

1:  Performance Anchors I:  Fast Steps to Fundamental Confidence

Anything But Homework Can Go Wrong

The Power Cycle: Homework & Practice Aloud

The Switch    •    Breathing    •    Grounding

Middle Stance    •    Middle Voice    •    Middle Face

Eye Contact    •    The Power(s) of the Pause

 

  

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2:  Performance Anchors II:  Stand Out Every Time

Context    •    Audience    •    Homework Criteria

Form (Practical Tips)    •    Bring the Problem In    •    Say Hello

The 1-4 Intro    •    Form (Creative Tips): Hook, Body & Close

 

3:  Senses, Rhythms & Substance:  3-D Dynamism

What’s My Music?

The Power Formula:  Identify, Deliberate, & Judge

 

4:  Points of Speaking-Power in the 21st- Century Universe

Six Big Thoughts, or Why & How Neutrals Guide the Orator

Definitions    •    Functional Criteria

The Straw: Use & Abuse    •    Comparisons

Assumptions (Blind Spots)—Theirs & Yours

 

5:  Claiming Space: Diplomacy & Combat

Breaking In (The 1-2) & Giving It Away

Hecklers, Interruptions & Talk-Overs    •    Traps & Opportunities

Political Correctness

 

6:  Persuasion & Service

Lead by Listening & Questions    •    Clear the Air

Empowered Authorities    •    Common Ground & Standing Yours

Cumulative Criteria:  Five Audience Demands

 

7:  Magnitude

Recitation, Interpretation & Performance    •    Keep On or Fall Back

 

Coda:  The Mighty Game of Duh! (Interviews & Ex Tempore)

 

 

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JACK  DEMPSEY (b. 1955) grew up near Boston and became a writer, editor and public speaker in New York City educational publishing. Since his 1998 Ph.D. from Brown University, he has published four books on Native and Early America (called “required reading“ by the journal Ethnohistory); produced documentary-films and educational events, consulted with National Public Radio, and built new curricula through 17 years of teaching at Brown, Wheaton College and Bentley University.

            Dempsey delivers multimedia programs for professional, school and community audiences. Recent works include Calendar House: Clues to Minoan Time from Knossos Labyrinth (2010) and a collaborative website, AncientLights.org. His latest talk was the Keynote Address for “Living With The Land,” a 2010 public symposium that brought together ecologists, businesspeople, community leaders and citizens in Orange, Massachusetts.

 

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Who doubts that we can produce, from this city alone, almost innumerable excellent commanders—while we can number scarcely a few who are eminent in speaking?...Who can suppose that…there is any other reason to be found for the small number of orators than the incredible magnitude and difficulty of the art?


—Cicero, De Oratore, or, On the Character of the Orator (c. 55 BCE)

 
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A skillful Angler ought to be a general Scholar, and seen in all the liberal sciences as a Grammarian, to know how to write out discourse of his Art in true terms, without affectation or rudeness. He should have sweetness of speech, to persuade….He should have strength of arguments, to defend and maintain his profession against envy or slander. He should have knowledge in the Sun, Moon, and Stars….He would not be unskillful in Music, that whenever  either Melancholy, heaviness of thought, or the perturbations of his own fancy stirreth up sadness in him, he may remove the same….He must be full of love, both to his pleasure and to his neighbor….Then he must be liberal, and not working only for his own belly, as if it could never be satisfied: he must with much cheerfulness bestow the fruits of his skill amongst his honest neighbors, who being partners of his gain, will doubly renown his triumph.

  —Gervase Markham, The Pleasure of Princes, or Good Men’s Recreations, 1613

 

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Begin Here:

Speaking Power Leads to Every Goal

 

What is powerful speaking? Citizen or student, business-person or teacher, politician or pundit---three powers converge in speech that moves us. A scientist’s loyalty to facts everybody can see; a scholar’s seasoned wealth of ways to see them; and, a poet’s skills with language and the body. It brings truth into our midst, whose answer is action.

You have this within you. Whatever your goal, it’s time to unlock and unleash the dimensions and rhythms of your unique music. Music, the world finds hardest to resist.

Nature gives each being a voice. What you develop in yourself becomes your message. Bring those together, and your speech makes things happen. For power is the sum of all the resources you can apply toward your goals: its proof is your results.

Yet people fear public speaking more than death. A speaking disaster seems like a social death: being judged as incompetent in the subject and/or its delivery. In contrast, we know a first-rate speaking event by its magnitude---the burdens, challenges and risks taken on, and the speaker’s level of success in direct spite of them. Even in grave situations, a great speaker’s homework and practice turn their confidence into achievement---into substance with style. They’re at play.

That’s where we want to go. The way you speak either helps or holds you back---in business, education, and social life.

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 These methods draw from 25 years of experience and feedback, from public to academic and media audiences. They keep developing as I observe and adjust according to results among clients and university students, who describe themselves as newly empowered to work toward their own goals (more than 1000 people in 17 years, including Brown University, Wheaton College and Bentley University). It was their achievements that produced Bentley’s Gregory H. Adamian Award for Teaching Excellence in 2010.

These techniques have produced results against challenges from impediments to forms of needless self-inhibition. They can also empower people who come to English as a second language. Human identity is tightly tied to language (Chapter 4). So we work on ourselves when we work on how we speak: we grow by the effort.

Don’t fear (or be surprised by!) the abilities you unlock---if you’re ready to go back to basics with patience and determination. You didn’t learn to drive at 85 mph. We start afresh as speakers---Slow it down, clean it up, and then build toward our unique best.

If you go to the gym but don’t work out, you waste your time. These tools and processes demand honest attention to detail and critical feedback. You’ll need real homework and humor that both abominate fakery; plus, the will to Practice Aloud.

No one can please everybody. You can learn how to move more people all the time. The skills are the same for one or a million listeners.

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When you A) visualize and experiment toward the speaker you want to be, and B), process your results and feedback into new habits, you make language rewire your brain. It can be tough, and it’s always worthwhile. With equal speed, it gets easier and more rewarding.

First we identify, attack and clear the small disempowering habits that we fall into or inherit. On a solid foundation of “clean” speech, we then take firm creative hold of the powers that flow through us.

What are the stakes? Take charge of your speech, and you live a life more likely to unfold according to your desires. In the midst of all that language does to shape and compel us, there are ways to ride, steer and guide that wild river toward our own particular goals.

Let’s go!

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Performance Anchors: or,

Fast Steps to Fundamental Confidence

 

          Performance Anchors are basic elements of excellence that every public speaker must have. Starting right here, you must deal for real with each basic aspect. One point at a time, be 100% sure you have conquered this first Chapter each time you speak. Do that, and right away you stand out from the herd, without seeming to try: the world’s first clues of your first-rate standards in all things.

Basics first. This Chapter is a primary check-list to apply every time you get ready to speak. Conquer a few basics, and then your brain and your style are 10 times more free of the petty obstacles and worries that hold back your real powers.

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Your New Motto, the Bottom Line of Confidence:

ANYTHING BUT HOMEWORK CAN GO WRONG.

          You’re in the audience as a speaker falls right on his face before the first word. But he gets up and delivers a talk that changes the world before your eyes. There’s no doubt of the substance in the style. You take it home because it gives you more real command of the subject. So, what do you remember of the evening? The power of the talk.

          It’s the same each time you speak. Above is your new motto and new first assumption as a speaker. Let’s explore why. First:

Nothing changes about the world when you get up to speak.

You feel safe when you’re in the audience. You’re with, and hidden by, a group. Its eyes are fixed on someone else. You sit in the chair of a judge, with (of course) your own perfect calm mixture of wide-awake open mind and intelligent skepticism.

You pity and admire a speaker just for being up there, so exposed, but going for it. Most people in an audience are more or less like this.

          They do not disappear or turn vicious when you get up there.

Remember that “you” are still in the audience---all those curious and mostly-supportive people as real as yourself. If you A) know what you’re talking about, and B) work with all your best practice behind you to communicate, nothing that matters can detract from your effectiveness.

From now on, speak with this first fact in your bones.

From hecklers to bomb-scares, Anything can go wrong and do you no harm as a speaker---if you meet the essentials for which you are responsible in a first-rate speaking event.

What are those responsibilities?

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HOMEWORK, & PRACTICE ALOUD

          Homework and Practice Aloud work together in a circular process that grows more powerful each time you come through it.

Homework is the process by which you discover (and learn how to demonstrate) answers to questions that people can judge for themselves. It’s all to your confidence and power that most people work the opposite way---starting with an opinion built from unexamined assumptions, and shoring it up with a few select authorities.

          There are criteria for demonstrating Homework (to come). Here, understand that Homework enables you to demonstrate substance---a reasoned and real contribution to your subject. All the tricks of language go to hide this when it’s lacking. When substance is there, you can’t lose.

          Homework answers three questions in clear solid terms:

A) What facts, and varying views of them, do people need to grasp this subject?

B) What must they have learned when they forget 85% of what you’ve said and shown? And,

C) How does each part of the content drive that home?

          Practice Aloud brings the physical body to bear on the brain-work above. Half of a powerful speaking experience is a physical event. So you absolutely must include Practice Aloud to make the most of its benefits.

          How can you claim them?

          You can think all day and write all night. Words will go round and round and convince each other (and finally, you) of their deep sense. Then, when you speak them aloud---especially to someone else---you instantly know what’s good, and what has to be far better.

          Ernest Hemingway called the human ear “a one hundred percent foolproof crap detector.” When you sit in an audience, you instinctively know fluff from substance. So, stop letting go of that skill just because it’s now you who is speaking. When you know that a sentence or point isn’t good enough, face the message and take real action.

          Your ear is not only your best merciless editor. It’s part of your body, which---as the complement of your scientist’s brain---is the artist in your speaking style, who brings every perfect nuance into the event.

          Much more to come on how that works and happens and grows. First, recognize another way that Practice Aloud empowers you.

          The human brain in some conceptions has two sides---again, the cool rational scientist and the emotional, intuitive artist. So, at any given time along your day and preparation process, you’re in one mode or the other. (Sleep is a third mode, too: go over a talk just before your day’s rest, and next morning you bring a sharp editor to work.)

          Make an ally of this by doing your Homework and Practice Aloud at different times, in different moods, and in different environments. (You can call it Mood Editing.) It seasons your speaking with all the different aspects of yourself. Some sessions improve content, and some improve strategies, rhythm and style.

          Each Homework/Practice cycle tells you how to grow more powerful. The main points here:

*Anything but homework can go wrong.

*The audience is as ready for me as I was for other speakers.

*I’ve done my absolute best homework. I have diligently practiced aloud again and again.

*On these grounds, I have earned an expectation that I can trust: Whatever happens, it’s going to be my best.

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Basic Performance Anchors: Next Steps

Switch On

          You don’t have to be a perfect speaking being. Half of language is about the pleasures of bonding. We go crazy unless we have places to talk without rules and high-end standards.

The point is to know the difference that most people don’t. There are times for pure play, and times when you speak to advance your life---to land a business loan, to meet the dean, or deliver substance to your peers. Not to mention interpersonal affairs.

From now on---in Practice Aloud, and before you aim to speak with power---raise a hand to your temple, and turn on a Switch there.

When the Switch is on, we speak only our best.

          Your Switch puts an end to habits that rob you of power:

Most of all, waste in our words. If you have 250 words to impress the world, but 170 are “Like,” “Um,” and/or “You know,” it’s over. These dead-air sounds have other guises, too---for example, “Well,” “So,” “Then,” and “And” itself.

          Dead-air noise is a plea, the crudest of place-holders in a talk. What it speaks is lack of real confidence. Does blank meaningless noise between words and sentences keep people listening? In fact, the opposite is true (more on this). 

          Difficult, but crucial---The Switch also means no more of the “Question Tone?” Some call this “Up-Talk?”---when the tone or arc of every phrase? and sentence? seems to be posing a question? Worse, it sounds timid? Tentative, and immature?

          “They say it’s going to rain today?” “I think you’re on fire?” “You make a brilliant point?”

          See Middle Voice below for more on getting rid of Up-Talk. First, here’s how to create a Switch that’s strong and reliable:

Pause More, with a Breath; Work in Shorter Sentences; and, Slow It Down. Start “high” in your voice-range, and end each sentence low. The richer style you want will return (or grow), but without these killers.

Accomplish one “clean” sentence at a time. Start from the higher “bright” end of your range, and you have nowhere to go (short of comedy or hysterics) except down in tone to the finish. It gets easier fast, and the differences make you want more.

Deal with these small problems, and you stand out in every group in both diction and rhythm. You draw the world in without seeming to try.

Start from where you are. A dictaphone or recorder will not lie about where you need work in the basics. Put your Switch on---and leave yourself some long phone messages. Talk about your day or a movie, tell a story or a joke. Then call back a day later---and be honest about how clean or “noisy” your best speaking presently is.

Two very important tips about your Switch:

A) Your Switch goes on just before you start speaking, and stays on until after you sit down again---especially through deceptively-informal Q&A, Discussions or Interviews!  

B) If you tell a story that includes dialogue, be sure to use “He/She said”---or better, action verbs (for examples, “yelled,” “whispered,” “announced”). Never use “He/She was like…” or “He/She goes….”

These Anchors work together to root your performances in confidence. The Switch is a commitment to speaking powerfully or not at all. With groups, I interrupt a speaker when their Switch quits, and ask them to pause and start again. I wish you could hear their peers’ applause when they clear a problem. And I know they’d clap the same for you.

Alas, I’m not there to annoy you directly till you change. So these next Anchors of equal import show you more of how to install, maintain and strengthen a Switch of your own.

Breathe!

          When early humans hid from predators, they held their breath. We became hard-wired to stop breathing when afraid. So it’s easy to see why people “go blank” just before or during a talk.

          If you cut off oxygen to your body and brain, they interrupt whatever you’re doing to demand more. If your mind goes blank before or during a talk (in spite of your best homework and practice), check this first. You likely need deeper, more sustained, rhythmic breathing.

          In starting practice (with Switch on), take at least 10 long deep breaths (part of Grounding, next section). You’ll feel your nervous system calm down, flush with a fresh oxygen supply. Then, after each sentence, take another deep breath to fuel the next.

          Meet this constant need, and you free up brain-cells to help with what matters. Like a poet, you gain a natural (breath-based) rhythm in the way your sentences unfold. And, you demonstrate (without seeming to try) the confidence to take your time. Plus, a slower pace lets your listeners savor every word and inflection of your talk---the mark of a person sure of the value of their talk.

Grounding

          Life animates us with wild (hard to control) electro-chemical energies. Speaking makes bio-energies surge. Ignore or deny them and they cause (at least) a stiff locked-down posture, that fails anyway to control them. They create nervous “tics” that disconnect the body from a talk’s intended messages (rocking in place, tapping a pen, fishing in pockets, toying with hair, crossing feet). These distract your audience and yourself. There’s a better way.

The point of Grounding is to find your own physical, bodily ways to rise to and integrate life’s crazy energies into your performance.

          It’s time to speak. You’ve done the Homework and Practice. Your Switch goes on. Your Breathing is deep and rhythmic. And still you feel over-charged with abundant but uncontrollable nervous energy.

Imagine those forces as a magnificent horse that nothing in the world can tame or hold back. This horse is coming your way, right past you---or, over you if you block its path. What do you do?

Start running in the same direction---and jump on! You don’t stop it, or miss it. You rise to it, match its pace and power, become one with it. From there, it carries you like pure inexhaustible energy toward your goals.

How? You must physically explore, identify and do what works for you: your own best bodily ways to rise to and integrate (rather than resist or hide) this source of power.

With decades of classes and public talks, I still need that Switch and deep Breathing. And, I ground: clap my hands and/or slap them to my sides, or shake fists on the air. When I can, I sing out, or strut a few measures of music that I call kick-ass. Waiting visibly on a stage, I gently wring my hands, or open and close them from tight to loose and stretched. I breathe even more, police my best posture---and see myself still sitting in that audience.

Yet, there’s always more crazy energy left over. To that I give myself in getting up to speak (what choice is there?), and it fills the first minutes with a Let’s Go enthusiasm.

Life’s energies enable and empower you. So, welcome them in. Get Playful. You’ve got it when you “shake it off” like an athlete, and no longer feel divided between a top-form speaker and a nervous animal.

There is only you, “psyched” up into a full-alert state with a calm, poised, ideally-playful center. You’re good, you have earned the right to know it, and you’re ready for the room, whatever the outcome.

What physical acts lift you up and keep you in that state? Athletes smack and smash into each other. In their state, it feels good.

Find your own private experimental space, and:

Imagine---You’re on in less than 5 minutes. You need that high-alert state with a calm core, now. You want to be the center of a storm.

Let your body do what it needs to do---until you and that nervous body are one being. Clap. Jog in place. Trust the level where this feels good, and learn to go there by refining what worked.

Each time you hit this state, claim the reward: consummate it with a smashing delivery of (for example) a song, a poem or some magnificent language that makes you feel alive.

There are more ways to know when your Grounding rituals work. Nothing improves your speech more than experience and experiment.

Create a question that needs answering where you are. Do the homework and offer your peers a talk about the findings. Afterward, invite tough feedback on two fronts: How well did your message itself get through? And what were the strong and weak aspects?

Experiment with these Anchors in all your different speaking situations: dinner table, workplace and with peers.

Observe---and each time, connect the Grounding-actions used with your best results. What worked for you: slapping hands to your sides? A few jumping-jacks? The whole process guides you to the best few.

Above all, welcome that wild horse. Rise to the riding of it. Summon and deliberately match (release and allow) its powers---It’s You. Jump on, hang on and let it carry you through that talk. You mean business.

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Homework. Practice Aloud. Switch On. Breathe. Ground. With these first 5 Performance Anchors, we move toward guiding our raw living powers to our goals.

Let’s backtrack for one moment. If you take the floor as a jumpy and unsettled presence, work again through the first Anchors to avoid this first impression. Deal for real with them, or they sap away power.

If you settle down into your best style after the first few minutes---having realized that nobody threw anything at your head---realize that A) There’s a need for more Breathing and Grounding beforehand; and, B) You want to know more about what creates your best.

What are you feeling by the time you hit your best? Consider yourself lead singer in a band: it’s got to be your best from the first. From here on, that is the level where you need to start speaking every time.

Identify what kinds of Grounding bring you to that state, and apply them. The reward for all this “pre-game” is that in every different speaking circumstance, you have your own sure Anchors for success.

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Middle Stance, Middle Voice, Middle Face

          These Anchors are three simple norms---of body, sound, and demeanor---which you establish in your own way, and then from which you depart and return throughout a talk. Begin from these basics, and then the ways you play upon them become the basis of your art and style.

Middle Stance is a strong relaxed posture with feet slightly apart, arms still and loose at your sides. Begin from here, and you wipe the whole expressive slate clean for yourself and the audience.

It only takes a moment if you wish. Then, if you have Grounded yourself properly, every change of footing and gesture that you make, to vary this “blank slate” of a norm, is one of two things.

It’s either A) natural and unconscious to you, but still appropriate to what you mean; or, B) a deliberate and artful element of meaning, emphasis and expression.

Plato and Cicero created catalogues of moves and gestures that evoke certain meanings or emotions with the body. “Hands out on the air” often amplifies a question or a plea. A few strides toward one part of the audience add drama (if appropriate to meaning) on all sides. Arms akimbo can declare a decisive point: a look up, exasperation.

Start to notice and keep a list of moves and gestures you find especially effective---in dance and sculpture, painting, film and theatre, performance, talks and more.

Try them where they might match your meanings. For example, in the margin of your outline for a talk’s points, make a note to try one deliberate gesture with each main point. All that’s unique to you will make them yours. At the same time, you raise the odds of connecting with different people in an audience who know a like physical language, and with those who key most on visual messages.

Middle Voice is your own comfortable middle range or normal tone of voice---loud and clear enough to be heard by every person where you speak. Push it out from your lower diaphragm, with purpose-anew, for each new sentence. Soon, it’s second nature.

In formal circumstances, this means a volume like a lawyer’s in a court. In closer settings, it means a bit louder than normal, too. The common-sense standard is that everyone can hear each confident word.

Middle Voice works in the same way as Middle Stance. You establish a “normal” basic tone, and then depart and return to create effects that enrich your talk with levels of meaning.

By all means (again)---Breathe, and Begin each sentence “high” in your range, to end it “low.” Make each new sentence flow gently downward in tone, like a waterfall with three levels. Start high to add energy: it refreshes a listener’s attention. Along the middle, take your time and unfold those first-rate details. Finally, descend in tone and bring the whole meaning home---as if you’ve arrived at the waterfall’s deep pool.

Higher tones conjure suspense, or signal a key question. Descending tones create momentum, authority, gravity: they guide us along a process or to a solid conclusion. They can also set up irony and anti-climax.

Middle Voice reveals how many voices you have, and can acquire. We’ll see more of how these three Anchors take great speaking toward music, and more---toward a 3-dimensional symphony.

          Middle Face links you powerfully to the Neutrals. Never forget: the Neutrals are watching. Neutrals are the major share of almost every audience. (We’ll see why.) Neutrals as such are the people most free to decide where truth is among many speakers.

If your face shows a sour, snide look of ridicule as you listen to others or invite them to speak, you tell the Neutrals that you aren’t one. If you quote from or talk to others with mockery, the Neutrals see and resent your attempt to bias them with your face, tone and treatment. What you try to inflict on someone else tells about you.

Whatever happens in a talk, discussion, debate or argument, your face and demeanor express the same equanimity. You present your best self: a person calm and balanced, seasoned, wide-awake, feeling good---pleasantly professional. Focused for work, and flustered by nothing.

          We’ll return (Chapters 2 & 4) to the Neutrals as powerful speaking guides. Henceforth: Always present allies, opponents and the audience with the same Middle Face and demeanor---and most of all, if someone attacks you on personal grounds.

Breeze past it (and see Chapter 5). Return to the point that matters to the Neutrals. You never go wrong that way, because it’s public service. It also drops the indignity back onto its speaker, without your lifting a finger.

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Eye Contact for Everyone

          This Performance Anchor is as crucial as the others. It helps you every time you apply a simple principle, based (like those above) in a kind of golden mean.

          Too much or too little Eye Contact disturbs your connection with listeners. The golden mean is the same if you have one listener or millions. The easy, reliable and effective approach is to make Eye Contact a constant cycle through your speaking event.

          First, one-on-one talks and interviews. Begin each sentence with eyes (in your Middle Face) connected. Toward the middle of each (or, every other) sentence, as your voice descends, let your eyes blink and roam downward, rather than up or “around”---as if working through a rich reflection. At last with your conclusion, re-establish eye contact: it adds confident emphasis. It says you’re ready to go on and open right there to a question or response.

          Walk into a larger speaking situation, and you have one goal for Eye Contact: Start to finish, let not one single person be left out of the event. Again, the Neutrals are watching.

Locate the person at each extreme position of the audience. Create a visual cycle or sweep that includes every single person present: side to side, and front to back. Each repeated connection sustains their attention and interest, and links you to the Neutrals.

Henceforth, you sweep every point (each pair of eyes) between those extremes. Connect your Middle Face as you can with each person for about 2 seconds: then move smoothly to the next through your cycle. Whether this means moving just your eyes, your head and/or your whole body, do what it takes to sustain this rhythm all the way.

We need to work flexibly with the fact that some peoples and cultures prefer less direct Eye Contact in speaking. Yet in most cases, the world expects it---clear and bold. Rise to it.

Can you show what you’re talking about, so others can judge it for themselves? If so, you’ve earned the right to look people first and often in the eye and deliver. Do not be afraid to “scare” them just a little, with the confidence you earned by your Homework and Practice.

After all, they’re doing it to you! It’s your invitation forward.

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          Let’s see how well you command getting ready for your best. What are the 9 Basic Performance Anchors you just read about?

          See how well (in every sense) you can explain each Anchor---aloud, and/or with a listener or recorder.

          Each time you get ready to speak, check in with and apply these 9 Performance Anchors in the order shown. And you will stand out with the best in every group without seeming to try.

          If you need a bit of fear, consider: These are “only” the speaking standards of tough competitors and would-be peers ahead of you.

          We close with the Basic Anchor that enables the most progress with them all, in the least time---if you invest some.

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The Power(s) of The Pause

          We learn to drive slowly. First we earn real command over each element: then we bring them together to produce a smooth ride, neither timid nor reckless. With experience, the basics become second nature. We grow seasoned, and then cruise at our own speed to our destinations.

          Slow, It, Down.  

          Keep Your Lips Together till you’re truly ready to go on. Pause. Breathe, Ground, and ponder in silence. Then resume.

          Yes, our world hates to wait. But when you pause, and then deliver exactly the right words, people are grateful for the substance. They appreciate the very rare speaker who shows trust in their patience and respect for their attention-span.

When substance arrives, people forget the wait. Indeed, they come to enjoy the next interval of suspense before something worthwhile.

          A Silent Pause is A) Safety from careless errors; B) Time to breathe and gather what’s next; C) a subtle confident challenge to your listeners; and, D) a part of 3-dimensional rhythm and impact (Chapter 3).

          Slow, It, Down. When you Practice Aloud, add in Silent Pauses (and Breaths). At first, you may sound stiff or pompous. That will change for the better. The point is to regain control---until you command each word, phrase and nuance along the downward tone of each sentence.

Silent Pauses help the most with all these improvements. They grace and enrich speech. Dead-air noise and pure speed never will.

          When Chapter 1 is your Check-List, you’re on your way to the confidence that unlocks your real speaking powers.

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